My prompt this week is whom would I like to invite to dinner or is there a recipe that’s been handed down. There’s no recipe handed down for generations, too many of my ancestors lost parents when still children. I have a few from my mom but I don’t think any go way back.
However I would love to not invite someone to dinner but to be invited to join them for dinner. Sit at the table with an entire family; watch the interaction, be part of the interaction. Or there may be very little interaction because perhaps the children were supposed to be only seen and not heard. I’d love to help prepare the meal, set the table and clear the table. Though I wouldn’t want to go so far as killing a chicken or anything like that. Just have the meat all ready for cooking.
I just can’t decide which family, what country and what era. Maybe go way back to Johann Ferdinand Carl Römer, 1771-1860, my ggg grandfather. He was a man of wealth so I think he had servants and I doubt there was much banter at the dinner. His portrait is below. I don’t think casual me would fit in comfortably for any length of time so a three day visit would be best.
The James Emmett Cole family would be nice to drop in on. James, 1850-1928, was born in Pennsylvania while his wife Charlotte Hardwick,1847-1923, was born in Haddenham, England. She lost her parents while a young teen (no passing down of recipes), ended up as a servant until her brothers who had emigrated to Canada and the US could bring her over also. They had 8 children, one of them Sadie or Sarah, 1881-1914, my grandmother.
It’s really difficult to select another one because as I said so many children lost one or both parents. However I will also have to select my nemesis, Abner Munn, 1763-1847, his wife Sarah Ives, 1766-sometime between 1820 and 1830, and their ten children. He’s my nemesis because he and Sarah had four documented children in Massachusetts and then six undocumented in New York state. I of course am descended from an undocumented child. I wouldn’t even know about the parent child relationship if my mother’s aunt hadn’t tried to prove it for DAR. She knew it because the family had remained close to their cousins but of course DAR wants paper proof not a letter from someone declaring cousinhood. Back to poor Sarah who had two sets of twins, numbers 6,7,8 and 9. The table must have been alive with chatter because I just don’t see how you could keep all ten quiet for an entire meal. I’ve no photo of any of them even though a few of the children lived into the 1860’s and the era of photography.
So here is the painting of Johann.
The James Cole family, my grandmother Sadie is on the left.
And the family years later. My grandmother is on the left behind her husband Roy Munn, great grandson of Abner. I should add Roy lost his mother at age 10, no passing of recipes, Roy is holding their child Doug. Later they would have another son Richard and then my mom. Sadie died when my mom was 10 days old, no passing down of recipes again.